Shouldn't and actually being so are two different things.

Pansy? Reminds you of me? How is that? The pair of you having misunderstandings over the Firelogs, too? I know it can't be because she looks like me. Frightening thought, that.

Lots of things, I reckon. Laugh at his abysmal jokes, for one; he was an awful cardplayer, so I'd let him win a few rounds of snap but I'd still take him for his worth in poker; take the time to sit down and ask him how he is and actually listen. Stuff like that I'd change. Cor, I rambled on there like a big girl's blouse.

Sure you don't mean to say I've always made you feel exasperated?